5 Signs Your Love Life May Need a Makeover

by Dr. Brandye MD

Are you pleased with the amount of sex and intimacy that you are receiving?  Truly? Are you unsure?  For many women, this question is not hard to answer but to able to say why can be a challenge.  Now if you are unsure about why your sex life is not good, it may be time for you to find out?  

It’s Dr. Brandye, board-certified OB/GYN, Amazon #1 bestselling author, and women’s sex and pleasure coach, and I teach women how to feel good in and out of the bedroom.    

If you are pleased with the amount of intimacy that you receive, make sure to tell your partner (they may be wondering).  Doing so can help to improve your relationship.  On the other hand, if you are not pleased with the level of intimacy received, you still need to tell your partner but maybe you should know what is happening so you can share that.

So do you have a good love life?  To help you get an accurate answer to that question, here are five signs that your love life may need improving.

Sign #1 – You Find Sex Boring

Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a certain point where sex just isn’t fun anymore.  You can settle into a routine…a hug, a couple of kisses, a boob is grabbed, and then straight to the main event.  Being intimate with your partner should not be boring.  Try switching things up.  Do something new or different because sex should be fun and exciting.

Do you reject being intimate with your partner?  Do you put off going to bed with them in fear of being intimate?  If you do, your sex life may need an improvement or a change.

Sign #2 – You Are Left Unsatisfied

If and when you do get intimate with your partner, do you achieve maximum pleasure?  Or are you faking it just to get it over with?  This is most often the case with women… having sex but not enjoying it.  But even though it may happen a lot of the time, know that a great sexual life is possible for you.  You may need to get some knowledge about how your body works, or maybe offer suggestions to your partner or guide them in how to please you.  Whatever you do, just be sure to take action right away.  And if you don’t know where to start, click here. Why? Because a relationship where only one party is pleased, is likely to fail.

Sign #3 – Sex Feels Like a Responsibility

As it was previously stated, being intimate with your partner should not seem like work or a responsibility that you must fulfill. If it does, it is time for you to change.  Be spontaneous.  Initiate sex yourself, as opposed to waiting for your partner to do so.  Spice up your intimacy by experimenting in the bedroom with a new position or simply just have relations at a different time and place.  Whatever approach you do take, be sure to do something.  Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fail because sex is something that you would rather avoid.

Sign #4 – You Aren’t Having It

To have a good love life, you must first be making love.  Are you?  If you are in a relationship, you should be.  Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense.  

If you are not currently in a relationship, maybe take this time to get to know yourself, including exploring what feels good sexually.  And, just because you are not boo’d up right now doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have or not get the opportunity to experience intimacy and closeness with another adult.  Take action to put yourself out there.  This may involve using an online dating website or just visiting a bar with a bunch of your friends.  And don’t forget to cultivate a strong sense of self-love. 

Sign #5 – Your Relationship Is Failing

Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing?  If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble.  Despite arguing about a topic not related to intimacy, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame?  Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well.  The two should go hand in hand.


So do you have a happy and healthy sex life?  If not, let’s talk! I teach women just like you how to feel good in and out of the bedroom. You can get your free session with me by clicking here and learn how to live your best sex life ever! 

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